I think the answer to your conundrum is that the (business) users get what they are asking for. If you were using Hibernate/whathaveyou you are pretending you don't have a problem.

So much of this mess is caused by dumb decisions from people who don't understand what 'constraint' means - welcome to 2014, where business suits run the show, and technology is just plain broken as a result. Not that anything has really changed, the whole 'this is 2014' argument is a bit of a farce anyways.

Thats my take on it anyways, I think some people stopped reading your article once you started dumbing down what the app dev wanted to do.