I realize (perhaps in hindsight) that the comments were likely chose to be unacceptable. And you are right, I shouldn't have accepted the premise.
Is saying: "I find you attractive, would you like to go out on a date?" in the work place acceptable? Maybe. It depends on the company culture most likely. At Github it appears such a question can't be uttered, because a 'no' response will cause a person's code to be reverted by a scorned suitor (and management do nothing).
I also think that people in power (men in this case) could maybe learn some self control to not act differently around half the people in the world. And I realize it's a societal thing.
A more honest work environment may help the problem, but so would solving the root cause of the problem.
>At Github it appears such a question can't be uttered, because a 'no' response will cause a person's code to be reverted by a scorned suitor (and management do nothing).
Don't generalize based on a single incident, especially since she was already apparently-openly dating someone else when that person asked.
Besides you were right!
I realize (perhaps in hindsight) that the comments were likely chose to be unacceptable. And you are right, I shouldn't have accepted the premise.
Is saying: "I find you attractive, would you like to go out on a date?" in the work place acceptable? Maybe. It depends on the company culture most likely. At Github it appears such a question can't be uttered, because a 'no' response will cause a person's code to be reverted by a scorned suitor (and management do nothing).
I also think that people in power (men in this case) could maybe learn some self control to not act differently around half the people in the world. And I realize it's a societal thing.
A more honest work environment may help the problem, but so would solving the root cause of the problem.