Yeah, it's been our experience that getting any doctor to take breast and uterus conditions seriously, especially with symptoms that can't be empirically measured, is a nightmare.
My partner spent most of their months living with this tumor feeling like they were being stabbed to death every 20 to 30 minutes, between the torsioning and it getting pinned against their uterine walls. It should not have taken a third opinion to say, hey, maybe you _do_ need imaging done after all to confirm that your level of pain isn't in fact normal for a UTI that they don't have, or periods that they weren't having at that point of their cycle.
My partner also should never have had to switch to a menstrual cup so they could measure their own period blood loss across months, just make their own case that 80-100mL of blood lost _per day_, not per period, isn't "heavy but normal".
I've had bad diagnostic experiences with my mother where I thought: "do I have to be the expert here?"
My mom had this crippling abdominal itchiness that all the doctors thought was due to her Parkinson's. They did do x-rays, ultrasounds, an endoscopy, a colonoscopy and prescribed cream for her skin but none of that found anything or helped. What they didn't consider were abdominal adhesions that grew BETWEEN her stomach and the abdominal wall. They were invisible in x-rays and ultrasounds. They are easily removed through laparoscopic surgery. A couple of times, I suggested that her splenectomy may have caused some internal scarring that was irritated by her stomach but they didn't listen to me. I feel bad about not pursuing that theory. They did find adhesions in her abdomen during emergency surgery for a perforated colon but she died the morning after.
I'm so sorry for your loss and for this comment if it turns out to be unwanted.
We can always do more. Don't let that overshadow what you did do. You showed yourself to be a loving and caring daughter/son. Please don't feel bad because you weren't listened to. You already exceeded what was expected of you and I think any parent would be proud.
My partner spent most of their months living with this tumor feeling like they were being stabbed to death every 20 to 30 minutes, between the torsioning and it getting pinned against their uterine walls. It should not have taken a third opinion to say, hey, maybe you _do_ need imaging done after all to confirm that your level of pain isn't in fact normal for a UTI that they don't have, or periods that they weren't having at that point of their cycle.
My partner also should never have had to switch to a menstrual cup so they could measure their own period blood loss across months, just make their own case that 80-100mL of blood lost _per day_, not per period, isn't "heavy but normal".