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Disclaimer: not a parent, as will soon become apparent.

Several people have made the argument that individual parents can't simply cut their children off from social media, as said offspring may be ostracised (or simply look at their friends' phones, assuming they still have any).

That argument makes sense to me, to an extent.

What I don't quite understand is the conclusion that this leaves parents with only two (equally unpalatable) options.

Parents don't have to act individually. They could act as a collective, especially within the context of a small social group.

Is that really such a naive suggestion?


> Is that really such a naive suggestion?

IMHO, yes, but that'll depend on the kid, their friends, and all the parents involved. If everyone does line up and agree, than it might be possible, but I think the reality is that kids are remarkably clever and resourceful and will find a way to access what you don't want them to. They'll do it secretly and maybe you'll find out or you won't.

My child is 18, and from about 7th grade onwards, everything important with friends happened in one of the various "group chats" for the various friend circles, sports circles, etc. These are app-based, not SMS/RCS/iMessage based. In our family, we opted for "you can use devices" but with some limits around time of day and work completeness. Phone and apps were open to review by mom and dad on demand.

When reviewing, we weren't looking to micro manage or police the conversations, but to make sure that nothing alarming was happening with respect to addiction to the media, stranger conversations, etc. And yes, random phishing, spam, and inappropriate messages did occasionally come through and provide a great opportunity to talk about how to identify the scams, and how to report the inappropriate messages.

As the kid got older and demonstrated ability to manage things, restrictions loosened, but on-demand access is still allowed with random checks every now and then. Obviously we can't see everything, but it's a balance of protection and safety vs. releasing a fully functional and independent human in the wild that can handle these things on their own.

Again, this is going to depend on the situation, the kids, and the families. My sample size of raising a child is 1, so what worked for us may not work for anyone else.


Parents will get their kids phones worrying that they're missing out. The more parents do that the more the kids without phones are actually being left out. If the government puts restriction on these things than parents are much less likely to worry.

I've heard of parents of children for a certain grade getting together and all signing a pact that the kids won't have phones until a certain point, say 16. It only goes into effect if something like 75% of the parents for that grade sign on. I like that idea.


> Parents will get their kids phones worrying that they're missing out.

Again, not a parent, but isn't making difficult decisions in the best interests of your child the entire gig?


Imagine there's a lake with 100 fish farms. Each farm operator can pay $50000 to install a pollution scrubber that benefits every farm operator by $1000. Obviously, none of them do it, since it'd cost them $49000.

Coordination problems are why we have a government. It mandates the pollution scrubber, each of them moans a lot, 3 of them cheat, but everyone is $47000 richer in the end (except the cheaters who are $97000 richer until they get caught).


I agree with you. I plan to not be pressured by what other parents are doing. But that pressure is real and many parents end up thinking it's what's best. It's better that they have friends and a phone than neither of the two.

What about a "no social media accounts" pact?

US voters are defined by their apathy. Collective action is difficult even on areas most American's agree on due to shades of grey and implementation differences.

It may be analogous to vaccine adoption, with requirements in place for all (with some exceptions).

Who sets and applies the exceptions? A state or federal agency that runs afoul of free speech issues? An AMA type public board for social media use, quickly captured by the industry they serve to regulate? Parents themselves via opt out paperwork or ignoring the regulations?

I want to see more options debated or proposed for this sort of management, starting with right to privacy and your data, harsh punishment for promoting misinformation, and disclosure of algorithms/etc on what your feed includes.

Make all fines a flat % of revenue or an otherwise real amount to companies like Meta, not just a cost of business. Maybe pay users when their data is used/sold/etc, or otherwise increase the cost of what are basically information dragnets for advertising and manipulation.


Anthropic clamping down on non-first party clients using their subscription plans may also have something to do with it.

Thankfully, it has been many years since I had to debug Bluetooth drivers (or anything of that ilk) on Linux.

I think you've misunderstood the purpose of a lead (sic).

Per Merriam-Webster [^1], a lede is:

> the introductory section of a news story that is intended to entice the reader to read the full story

(Emphasis mine)

You may prefer more matter-of-fact phrasing, of course, but criticising a lede for attempting to achieve its goal is unjustified.

[^1]: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lede


A 'lede' is just an intentionally differentiated spelling of 'lead'; the origin of the word is just lead. Collins dictionary defines lede: a variant spelling of lead

TIL, thank you.

Is it not an intentional spelling in order to coin journalistic jargon?

I think the criticism is less about whether the lede is good at achieving its goal and more about whether that goal is honorable in the first place.

So dismissing it on technicalities is for sure clever but also obvious and lame.

The Letter/spirit thing eventually got boring. Please find better material


I apologise if using words correctly is obvious and lame.

GP is explicitly criticising the language in the lede as being unsuitably vague, hence my reply.

As to the goal of the article, I fail to see what is dishonourable about comparing LLMs. You may consider the methodology flawed, but it's a perfectly respectable goal.

Sorry, was that another technicality? I'll try to find better material, just for you.


There are monied interests that do not want inexpensive Chinese successors to Scam Altman's creation.

They're inexpensive because they're derived from his creation.

The creation--which isn't "his" in the first place, by any standard definition--was not only itself "derived from" our creations but was always supposed to be "open".

> which isn't "his" in the first place, by any standard definition

I was saying that because of the previous comment:

> to Scam Altman's creation

It wasn't derived in the same way though - I can read loads of books and so can write my own book, but that's not derivation in the same way as the Deepseek's derivation.


It’s the hardest part of an article if you ask me.

Filling it with slop constructs signals the reader no effort was made writing the article. So no effort should be put into reading it.

The rest of the article is equally flimsy. Great clickbait title, perhaps that is even harder than writing a lede.

I am not a native speaker :)


In what way?

In the way of eschewing all the APIs that allow an X11 client to control your desktop.

I don't think it's reasonable to judge Conventional Commits on something it doesn't claim to do.

I can't see any suggestion on the CC site [^1] that it "solve[s] the core issue of the poor commit messages problem."

Rather, it's explicitly described as "a specification for adding human and machine readable meaning to commit messages."

I'd say it accomplishes that modest goal.

[^1]: https://www.conventionalcommits.org/en/v1.0.0/


He explicitly addresses that in the article.

> Luckily I’ve been joined by some other very good developers with great systems development skills and security knowledge... Watch out for some credits for some great new rsync developers in the next release.


I've found Cosmic to be rather flaky, sadly (I'm rooting for it to succeed), so the latency issues may not have been Wayland-related.

Both KDE and GNOME seem to run very smoothly on Wayland.


I've found the built-in clipboard manager on KDE Plasma 6 to be very reliable.

When I used GNOME, the Clipboard Indicator extension [1] served me well.

[1] https://extensions.gnome.org/extension/779/clipboard-indicat...


Now we just take loans to purchase the train tickets.

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